Change Is On The Way
Stuck shows up when we have a big shift in life, or as a reaction to a lot of little shifts that we haven't yet managed. Sometimes the feelings are expressed as irritability, tiredness, feeling like our time is not our own, meeting others' priorities first, and/or a simple loss of space and time for ourselves to reflect on the changes that have occurred.
Roll With It
Raise the flags, sound the horns! So, SunMoonStarsTidesWeatherPlanetsGalaxy...Life, I am ready for whatever you're about to drop. I've been resisting for way to long. It's time to Roll.
Find Someplace Quiet
When I was in this feeling recently, I went to the river. I stood on a bridge above the river and looked downstream. I just stood there, for a while, and watched the river. At first there was the day's to-do list in my head. Then there was the feeling of being pinched in place by all the things I needed to do but felt like I didn't have enough time to do. I felt the irritability and the tired and the frustrated all compounded into one block of blah.
I continued to watch the river. I didn't let myself off the hook, I didn't let myself feel entitled by irritable and grumpy. That entitlement circle is a u-turn to nowhere helpful. I sat in the feeling of blah, all the while attempting to match the energy of the water flowing downstream.
Stubborn As An Asset
Finally, I got to stubborn, someplace useful. Paired with stubborn is defensiveness and it is the best indicator of a feeling in which we do not want to connect. Usually this travels with vulnerabilities that need attention, recognition, and time to heal.
Still staring at that river and not feeling zen about it, I decide to sit with the stubborn and see where it got me. I noticed pictures of myself with a life plan that was a bit different than what I was actually living. The paths are running parallel, with my old vision of myself on one side and my present life on another. No one likes to feel in multiple places at once but when we are feeling stuck, that is what is happening: we are on a different adventure that what we had planned for ourselves, and we don't know what to do about it yet.
I got super real, down into my bones. Why was I attached to that old path? What did it hold that I am missing now? Do I need those bits? If so, can I make room for all of them or maybe I just need to integrate some of them? If not, why am I clinging onto an old path that doesn't really hold the same value as the current one?
And here is where I hit it: I am being challenged and pushed to grow in ways I didn't anticipate but know I need for my larger life picture.
...Find the Flow Again
Still staring at that river, I felt my energy shift slightly and begin to flow again. There was nothing particularly special or "ah-ha" about this moment, I just did the work. The next step was to create my new vision for the future, moving forward in increments and with a lot of patience.
When we spend time in feeling stuck and let it teach us something, that is when the new path presents itself. From this enhanced perspective we shift into feeling the flow again.